Funerals and memorials
Following the death of a loved one, a funeral or memorial service gives family and friends a chance to pause to say goodbye.These ceremonies can help with the grieving process. They can honour an individual’s life and give rise to celebration and thanksgiving.
Although many are familiar with a ‘traditional’ funeral service, this is not the only way to say farewell. My role is to support you to create a service that is fitting for your personal circumstances.
I work on your behalf to represent your wishes. These may be non-religious, religious, spiritual or a mixture. The tone can be formal or relaxed. I will help to capture the essential qualities of your deceased relative, partner, friend, colleague.
As an independent Celebrant I am not aligned to any particular Funeral Director. I have worked with many based in Bristol.
I encourage you to exercise your choice in finding a Celebrant with whom you feel comfortable. We can discuss whether you feel I’m a good fit during an initial chat. If not, I can recommend other Celebrants.
What to expect
For me, it is vital to build up a relationship with you before the service. My preference is to meet you in person. Depending on circumstances, virtual meetings or phone conversations may work better. Our time together takes as long as is needed.
Committed to listening to you attentively, I am also skilled in sensitively encouraging memories and recollections about your loved one.
Together, we can discuss if you’d appreciate a formal eulogy or tribute. We can talk through music, hymns, poems, prayers, blessings and other symbolic actions. We can explore whether others would like to be involved or whether you’d prefer that I deliver everything on your behalf.
After we have met, I put together a first draft of the service. Together we continue to shape the service until you are satisfied.
I will conduct the service at the venue of your choice and will do this with sensitivity, empathy and integrity.
You will receive a commemorative script as a lasting keepsake in memory of your loved one.
Your choice of service
Funeral service (at time of cremation or burial)
Most families organise these ‘traditional’ services with the support of a local Funeral Director. They normally take place at a crematorium or burial site. The body of the deceased is committed for cremation or burial as an integral part of the service. A standard service lasts about 30 minutes. For a fuller or longer service, you could choose to book a double slot.
My fee for a funeral service is £230 (£285 for a double slot). This can be paid to me directly or via your Funeral Director.
In light of the Covid 19 pandemic, please see here for current UK guidance relating to memorials and life celebrations.
You have a lot of freedom when organising a memorial service. It can be formal or informal, large or small, and can take place at your choice of venue. If you wish, it can be held outside. Evenings and weekends are possible. There are no restrictions on time.
There may be many reasons why you may like to organise a memorial service:
- You may wish for a small, private cremation or burial coupled with a separate memorial service, when you can invite many more people
- You may wish to differentiate between your early stage grieving process and a full and participative celebration of life
- You may wish to hold a memorial service alongside the interment or scattering of your loved one’s ashes
- You may be having a direct cremation of your loved one, with no-one present.
My fee for a memorial service (within 15 miles of East Bristol) is £295 (week days)/£365 (weekends). I am happy to offer a reduced fee to those for whom I have previously conducted the funeral service.
If your Ceremony venue operates as a charity or social enterprise, I will donate 5% of this fee to the venue.
This includes travel within the city of Bristol. Beyond Bristol I will charge for travel and will keep these costs to a minimum.
As an experienced facilitator of group process using virtual technology, I am able to offer meaningful online funeral services. They can be a surprisingly, intimate, shared experience. An opportunity to connect family members and friends from the comfort and safety of their own homes.
Some families opt for an online service to coincide with the actual time of a cremation or burial, others opt for a different time. Weekends and evenings are possible. Services can be longer than is possible at a crematorium.
An virtual service is aimed at families who, bereaved during the current Covid-19 pandemic, may not feel comfortable with the necessary social distancing restrictions or as an option alongside a direct cremation.
My fee for a week day virtual service is £200. This can be paid to me directly or via your Funeral Director.
For an initial conversation. . .
If you would like to have a chat to see if I am the right Celebrant for you, please make contact here.
As a member of the Association of Independent Celebrants, I am able to offer you access to Grief Chat, a completely free service that offers emotional support for people who have been bereaved. If you think that you could benefit from Grief Chat, please let me know.